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Clare Smith

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Entitlement

May 17, 2011

Entitlement: belief that one is deserving of or entitled to certain privileges (Merriam-Webster Dictionary)

Who here has felt a sense of entitlement before? *hand raised*

Let me tell you a few things that I’ve felt entitled to. You let me know if any of these sound familiar.

♦ “I have worked hard today, I deserve to sit down and watch what I want on tv”

♦ “I am worn out! I deserve this bowl of ice cream!”

♦ “My husband has been at work all day and I’ve been busy with the house. He can take care of the kitchen tonight.”

♦ “My family has been stressing me out! I think I will purchase that purse I’ve been eying up at Target”

But how many times has entitlement gotten us in trouble? Have you added unnecessary calories because of it? Have you spent money that should have been spent elsewhere? Have you given an attitude to your children or husband that wasn’t positive?

When I start feeling this way (because I do!), I’m reminded of something. I am not my own. I am an expensive investment. I was bought at a high price.

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

(1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

Paul also says, “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything”

(1 Corinthians 6:12)

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So what does this mean for us? Does this mean we don’t deserve our bowl of ice cream, time in front of the tv, or new purse? Not at all.

Here are a few things to ask yourself when you feel this way:

♦ While you may be “entitled” to any of the above options, ask yourself, SHOULD you partake in any of it?

♦ Does this decision and the attitude that comes with it bring glory to God?

♦ Am I allowing something other than God’s glory and purpose to master me?

The decisions we make today all need to be filtered first through what God would want us to do with ourselves. We first must serve the Lord. I do not want to be mastered by anything else than the purpose and glory of God! I do not want my desire for ice cream to master me. I do not want my desire to look pretty to master me and I do not want my desire to “get even” with my husband to master me. Again, we were bought with a price! We are NOT OUR OWN.

So, tonight, when you are feeling unloved, unappreciated and exhausted, do not first grab for ice cream, the remote, or your credit card. Pause and ask God what He would want you to do because after all, you are HIS first. He gave his ONLY son for you. (John 3:16) You ARE an expensive investment. Live your life as one.

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  1. ChristineS says

    May 17, 2011 at 10:44 am

    Love this, Clare! By the way, I just ordered “Reshaping It All” by Candace Cameron Bure. You kinda talked me into it…

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  2. Mellissa says

    May 17, 2011 at 2:07 pm

    GREAT! I have really been in the habbit of allowing myself to sit and enjoy that treat or TV, instead of working harder. I will start asking if I SHOULD do these things instead! How nice! So often I end up taking the break I feel entitled to, only to have more work in front of me later- which only makes me craky! Great post!

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  3. liz young says

    May 17, 2011 at 5:00 pm

    (ehem….) we’re you just reading my mind? lol…i love how the Lord uses things and people to speak to us just when we NEED to hear it. Like right now, i just got done saying my ‘piece’ to my husband that i needed a little more help at the moment, inside yelling ‘A LITTLE HELP HERE!!! CAN’T YOU SEE ALL I’M DOING FOR YOU?!’ i am not my own, i was bought with a price, and so was he 😉

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  4. Courtney (WomenLivingWell) says

    May 18, 2011 at 9:13 am

    God used you this morning! I read this blog post yesterday and went on with life. Then I weighed myself this morning and saw I was down 4 pounds woohoo!!!

    So I start to get the kids breakfast…they begged for Hostess Donettes this week at the grocery story – something I don’t usually by…and as I served them their powdered sugar donettes…I thought – I’ve lost 4 pounds – HAVE at it! lol!!!

    Then this blog post came to mind…I was feeling entitled! BUT if I do that then I won’t get to my real goal! ARGH! So I had one donette (and a banana) – 3 grams of fat – 55 calories – I felt that was okay – moderation and veggies for lunch *wink…you saved me from eating 4 or 5 lol!! Thanks chick!

    Love ya,
    Courtney

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  5. Kim A. says

    May 20, 2011 at 7:23 am

    Oh my goodness! This is SO good, Clare! I can totally relate, but don’t think that I have ever actually formulated this into thoughts or words! Excellent! “I am not my own—I was bought at a price!” Thank you! ~Kim A.

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  6. ZooMichelle says

    May 30, 2011 at 11:21 pm

    Thanks for a great post! I’m really enjoying your blog and this post in particular really said it well- not that I can’t have it/do it but just thinking of what my choice means and if it brings glory to God…

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